Another Perspective on Bullying
Jan 18, 2017 at 07:15
All great spirits met violent opposition from mediocre minds
Albert Einstein
Being bullied can lead some to suicide or other forms of self harm. Negative self image, self criticism, a not good enough belief system can all stem from being bullied.
What if people treat us the way we feel about ourselves? What if we vibrate the message, I feel powerless?
It was Nikola Tesla who suggested viewing the world differently, thinking on the terms of vibration and frequency. An empowered person vibrates at a different level an a powerless one, it is like octaves in music. Interestingly an empowered person never bullies another, it is always disempowered people struggling to decrease their own pain who hurt others. It is like a molecule stealing an electron from another to rebalance itself.
Bullying, like all forms of victimhood might be better viewed as energy stealing by two dysfunctional energy systems. The one being bullied does not have the specific gravity to hold onto their centre, allowing, without realising they are giving away their power. It is not being stolen from them.
If we take the yin/yang model. the person being bullied attracts someone to bully them so the cycle can complete. If we were to move away from the place of powerlessness, we would change the energy dance and our predators would go elsewhere for their fix.
In a society where the victim is treated with hero status, giving up the energy hit, might be too much to ask. We pay so much attention and offer sympathy to anyone who is picked on, the energy bounce from this is enormous and like any addiction would be hard to wean ourselves off. We would need to go within, rediscover our centre, seek and find our heart-space and shift into a higher vibration. closer to unconditional love.
I received a vicious email recently. I had approached an old friend with a proposal. I concede in hindsight I could have handled it better, it did not however deserve the over inflated personal attack that followed. I will admit it shocked me and I felt my energy drop. It took a day or two to realise i had let this email act in a way to make me feel bullied. Looking back this person had always been this way, i just never saw it, i was to busy choosing to feel bullied, surrendering to those feelings. One of those magical moments occurred where the timeline of my reactive behaviour became clear. I could see how i had capitulated my power over and over when confronted with what could be referred to as bullying.
For the first time i was able to disconnect from the old patterns to respond differently. We are all capable of doing things differently when we open our minds, expand our perceptions and recognise what we don?t know we don?t know. It also helped me to realise that i needed to be more astute with who i listened to.
Changing our inner dialogue, choosing to feel good now and standing our ground quietly and calmly changes the energy we are emitting and attracts different people into our lives.
However uncomfortable this statement it has truth, We choose our feelings and reactions, being bullied is no different . Great hero?s through out history have been bullied, Jesus, Gandhi, Joan of Arc, Martin Luther King, Jandamurra, JKF, Churchill, Lincoln. All stood their ground, held to the inner core and prevailed or died with dignity. How often do we capitulate and surrender to a lesser power for convience. Then we blame others for bullying us. Sometimes the real bully is the one appearing to be the victim.
Over a two year period I watched a family go through a messy divorce, the other party did not consider that 26 years of marriage meant anything or had they had any responsibility to pay a fair share on separation. I was filled with our as this family member, gently. lovingly held their centre, stayed in heartspace and never reacted badly or bought into victimhood or crumbled under the bullying that was directed at them. What I witnessed was an act of love played out, where no love existed. They made their choice and stayed the course.
With everything that has happened to you, you can
either feel sorry for yourself or treat what has happened as a gift.
Everything is either an opportunity to grow
or an obstacle to keep you from growing.
You get to choose.
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Wayne Dyer