Kissing the Black Dog - Criticism

Feb 8, 2015 at 22:27

Criticism has lead too many people to commit suicide, doing self harm, physically, mentally and emotionally. It rips the heart out of any confidence we may have been able to ignite within ourselves. The constant negative input from those around us and people in general is like a virus, slowly destroying us from the inside.

People seem to relish inflicting their negative view point on anyone that is available; friends, lovers, partners, family. It does not matter as long as there is someone to teardown.

Do people mean to be so hurtful? No, not usually, they simply do not think. Most people who criticise are obvious to the damage they are doing. Some do not care, their own inner world was probably crushed years ago. They simply share the pain.

There is one simple tool for dealing with criticism. Simple yet most will struggle to apply it, at first at least.

Basically it goes like this

Your Opinion of Me is None of My Business!

To be able to maintain that thought and not let any of the stuff others hurl at us slip past the defences can change our lives. Regrettably between the programming of our families, school, religion and the dreaded beast we call the media, staying above the negativity is hard work. That is until we master the art of Who Do You Listen Too? 

When we can begin to come from a place of self love, we can begin to project back a higher vibration and to be pulled down to the other person pain levels. We really know when we are making progress when we can listen, digest what was said and then take what was of benefit and trash the rest. Sometimes people offer great advice wrapped in negativity.

We have over the centuries come to put ourselves and other down more than build each other up. There are many reasons, most of which are better left in the past so we can focus on what we want, how we wish to feel and what it is we wish to create in the future for ourselves, humanity and the planet.

Simple little tools such has Thank you for Sharing becomes a shield to deflect the criticism. Listening to our inner dialogue is another, most of the time we have acquired the pattern of criticising ourselves. It may be time to begin to be out own best fri=end and focus on what makes us feel good. It will take effort at first. With time it will become easier. We will fall back, or one or two criticisms will get through.

That's Ok, recognise it, go back to Feeling Good Now and move forward again.

There is a myriad of tools for unleashing our bandage to criticism, i have offered one to get the ball rolling.